The start of a new school year can bring a mix of excitement, jitters, and big feelings for kids—and for parents, too. One of the best ways to ease this transition is to help your child know what to expect without giving so much time to think about it that worries have room to grow.
When talking about the new school year, try highlighting both what will stay the same and what will be different:
- “You’ll have the same backpack.”
- “You’ll be at the same school.”
- “You’ll have a different teacher.”
- “Some friends will be the same, and others will be new.”
This balance helps kids feel grounded in the familiar while also preparing them for change.
Expect the Adjustment Curve
It’s common for the first—and even the second—day of school to go smoothly, only for days three and four to feel harder. The excitement and novelty have worn off, and the reality of the new routine sets in. This is a normal response to change, as the body and brain work to adjust.
If your child continues to struggle after about three weeks, it may be a good idea to check in with a school counselor, pediatrician, or child therapist for support.
The 5-10-5 Connection Rule
Just 20 intentional minutes of connection each day can make a big difference:
- 5 minutes before school to start the day with warmth and presence.
- 10 minutes after school to reconnect and hear about their day.
- 5 minutes before bed to wind down with comfort and closeness.
These small moments help your child feel secure during a time of change.
Books to Help with Separation
The Invisible String by Patrice Karst – This heartwarming picture book for all ages explores questions about the intangible yet unbreakable connections between us, and opens up deeper conversations about love.
The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn – This story emphasizes the enduring bond between a parent and child, showing how a simple act like a “kissing hand” can provide comfort and a sense of security when facing new or challenging situations like starting school.
Stories like these give kids a comforting way to think about connection, even when you’re apart.
The start of the school year is a big transition for the whole family. With preparation, reassurance, and a little creativity, you can help your child step into it with confidence.
If the big transition and separation feels overwhelming for your child—or for you—our Parent Support and Coaching services can help you build strategies, confidence, and calm for smoother mornings and stronger connections.
